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Just Because I Love You, Doesn’t Mean I Care About You

I think we waste a lot of our life force bickering with the people we love the most. You know those stupid cyclical fights that you’ve had over and over and over again that never seem to get resolved because in your heart you know they are going to leave their fucking dirty socks on the shower bathmat again? Most of the disagreements we have with people are just repeat conversations of the past, and each time we go down that yellow brick road, we will eventually end up in a poppy field passing out from emotional exhaustion.

When you’re really close to someone, you have to deal with their eccentricities, annoying habits, compulsive behaviors, and shitty moods. The more comfortable someone is around you, the more they let they guard down, and reveal the underbelly of their darkest selves. Sometimes I want to say, “hey, do you mind putting a shirt over your vulnerability right now, because I’ve seen a little too much of you today.”

The times I get most upset with people are when I feel like someone has disappointed me. I had some expectation they didn’t live up to, and then felt let down. I justify my rage by feeling like I was just caring about them – but is my caring a prison? If I never had that expectation to begin with, then I would never have gone through that psychic journey of disappointment.

Do you think it’s possible to love someone deeply, but not really care about them?

I don’t mean caring about their wellbeing, but caring about them in the sense that you don’t care or anticipate how they will behave.

When we fall in love with someone – a lover, friend, or even our own children – we have LIMITLESS expectations of them. When you first meet a person they are perfect in our eyes, because they haven’t yet revealed themselves otherwise. It’s so easy to think that this dude will never put the silverware facing down in the dishwasher, or this friend will totally steam her vagina with me, or my baby will never boss me around like the evil step sisters in Cinderella and then yell in my face that she hates me because I said it was time for bed.

The more you get to know someone, they will eventually fail you in one way or another… but is that their fault, or yours?

It’s a lot easier to see YOU as the cause of MY misery. When something doesn’t go my way, that’s not my fault, it’s YOURS for making me do it in the first place! Although it may feel momentarily better to blame other people for my emotions and say, “you made me feel bad about myself!” In reality, I made ME feel bad about myself. Even though it may feel like a lot of responsibility to see things that way, it is also empowering. I am the architect of my responses to the world, and can choose how I internalize my feelings.

If every time I get upset with someone I see it as my own doing, then I am no longer at the mercy of the world around me. I can’t control how you treat me, but I can control how hard I cunt punt you… I mean how I react to you.

So now when anything happens to me where I want to choke someone, I instead try and see my part in the situation, and instead focus on that. No matter what shitty thing happens, there is always a lesson I can learn. Even if sometimes that lesson is dipping your toothbrush in my pee toilet.

I have been trying to teach The Munch to not blame other people for her emotional wellbeing, but instead recognizing that she is the dictator of her internal world. So far this strategy is being met with mixed results. Sometimes it only inflames her:

Toni: Okay, that’s enough screens for tonight.
The Munch: Can I just watch one more “My Little Pony?”
Toni: No. We had a deal, and it’s time for a bath.
The Munch: I WANNA WATCH ONE MORE “MY LITTLE PONY!!!”
Toni: Dude. You and I had an agreement, and you have to honor it.
The Munch: YOU’RE THE WORST MOMMY IN THE WHOLE WORLD!
Toni: Munch, I know it’s disappointing, and you want to watch your show, but that doesn’t mean you have to deflect your anger onto me. You have to look inside yourself and realize that you made a promise, and it’s not my fault I am making you keep it. Instead of caring about me, and how I’m not letting you do what you want, you should instead care about you, and learning how to keep your word.
The Munch: AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!

But other times, it actually has been making an impact.

The Munch: Mommy, did you remember to pack my stuffed animal?
Toni: Oh no. I forgot. I’m sorry.
The Munch: That’s okay. I should have reminded you.

See how much easier it is to get along when we all just take responsibility for ourselves!!!

(Ps she totally did remind me…)

munch in van

3 Responses to Just Because I Love You, Doesn’t Mean I Care About You

  1. olga davidson says:

    This is one of the wisest blogs you have written!

  2. Laszlo Nagy says:

    I agree. You are training that girl to look at everything philosophically but with this comes I suppose some hazards. But in the end, the agility of her mind will be I would imagine at least partially a function of your endless debates with her.

  3. Posy says:

    just nail his socks to the floor….I did that (a very long time ago) the result was quite surprising!

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