It is the game that fuels the attraction, and the game that is the ultimate distraction.
Lust and love are often intertwined into the same relationship, but they are two very distinctive feelings motivated by different impulses. Romantic relationships magnetize mental mind games because part of what makes us uncontrollably passionate about another person is not feeling 100% secure. The ironic conflict between lust and love is that our minds think we want absolute security from our beloved, but our crotches like the challenge of not being able to anticipate what is going to happen next.

You of course want to be honest about who you are and what you want, but leaving a little bit of mystery can ultimately make you more attractive. There is a delicate balance between not answering every text message and coming off as totally sneaky, but if you can find that sweet spot you will only make yourself more desirable. Although our hearts crave total intimacy and our minds resist surprises, our sexy parts are a little more daring. In order to heighten your sex appeal you have to make sure your lover knows they can count on you when they need you most, but that they don’t think you are at their disposal.

It is not easy to maintain the game the longer you get to know someone because they start to know you are playing a game, so then your game becomes not to play any games, which they then catch on to so you start playing the game again, but it doesn’t seem as genuine because you already came out of it, so then you stop playing again and just watch TV.

“Sorry I can’t answer your call right now… I am too busy hanging with my girlfriend and my dog in our underwear…”