Smiling In The Face of Life About To Punch You
When life is going well, we usually feel happy… and when life is not going our way, we often feel depressed. Our emotional state of mind is intimately connected to external factors, and as a result our inner being is at the mercy of variables we cannot control. As long as we let the outside world pollute our inside universe, our moods will fluctuate like a drunk girl texting her ex-boyfriend.
You have no control over some stranger being a dick to you, or a loved one being cruel, or if you wake up to the sound of your cat dry heaving on your pillow. You have no control over life being shitty, but you do have control over how you react to it.
Although it is reasonable to be energetically mutable, to dabble in depression and wallow in woes, but there are other ways to react to disappointing stressful times. I am not saying it is easy… I am just saying it is possible.
But you need a strategy. You can’t just tell yourself not to care about something that you care about. Everyone knows how much it sucks when you are crying about life to a friend who tries to console you by saying “It could be worse…. You could be a starving orphan with an infectious disease of cascading warts and puss filled boils who just got mauled by an ox and blinded by the contamination of its urine which had pooled on your face as it trampled your genitals.”
Yeah… I get it… a lot of people have it worse, but that doesn’t make my pain go away. Having perspective of global atrocities doesn’t make losing your iphone any better.
So how do you control the way you react to life? I am not sure of this mystery, but I have experienced the freedom of letting go of situations that could poison my soul. Sometimes a friend will help me laugh my pain away. Other times I will go to some crazy tripped out yoga class and hold a pose for 11 minutes to cleanse my cells and recalibrate my operating system. Other times I can listen to my favorite song, or dance my melancholy away.
The key is remembering that as much life can really suck, it will feel beautiful again soon, and then it will blow again, and then just be okay for a while, and then totally rock, but then get really crappy again.