What I have to do in my life is more important than what you have to do in your life. But if I need you to do something in my life than that is more important than what is going on in your life. Got that?
Everyone is busy, and it is easy to think that what you are doing is the most important thing in the world. And it is – to you. But what if someone needs you to do something in their life? Do you ever flake out on them? Probably you do sometimes. But does that make you any less infuriated when someone flakes on you? Hell no it doesn’t.
Being reliable is hard. When you make a commitment to someone, you don’t always want to follow through when the actual time of the commitment creeps up, then feel overwhelmed and want to prioritize other things. It is easy to say yes to something before you actually have to do it, but then feeling like no the day of. The desire to flake is as strong as the smell of your armpits.
In my 20’s I would sometimes be reliable and other times flakey as fuck. I was unreliable about being unreliable because sometimes I was really reliable. I am not sure what that was about??? Maybe because I smoked an insane amount of pot those days – but I seriously doubt it.
After enough people reminded me how lame it was to be so lame I made a promise to myself. Every thing that I said “yes” to I would do… no matter what. And maybe that would teach me to say “no” to more things in the beginning and only commit to things I knew I would follow through with.
This life experience taught me a lot. Mainly that bachelorette parties get pretty messy pretty early on in the night.
In order for things to be a priority in your life, you have to make them a priority. If that is a project you are doing with another person, you both have to care about it equally and feel invested in the creation. And if someone asks for your help and you said “yes” because you want them to at least think you are a “good” friend, you have to care about their needs as much as your own. Even if you are just pretending.
“Ummm are any you guys going to help me out of here? Or are you doing your own thing?”