Hit me and I’ll hit you back
Under normal circumstances, if someone were to hit you in your face, you would hit them back. Seems like a reasonable reaction. But when a two year old slaps you in the face, if you were to slap them back they would fly into the air and it wouldn’t really be fair. You can’t hit your child just because they hit you, but you have to do something, otherwise they will think you are a wimp.
The Munch is not a big hitter, but it happens. She will look me dead in the eye and slap me. Not hard mind you. For one, she is still kind of a weakling… take that baby…. And for two, she is not trying to smack me hard. It isn’t about causing me pain as much as the emotive meaning behind it. Like “Ha Mamma! Take that! Now what are you going to do?”
The answer is, I really don’t know what to do. I feel like if a make a big deal about it, she will then regard hitting as seductive. Like she will want the attention it causes regardless if positive or negative. But if I totally ignore it, Munch won’t get the message that I don’t want her to hit me. She knows what she is doing is provocative, because you can see it in the petulant look she gives pre-hit. Munch is purposely trying to challenge me.
I have at times made a game out of it, and she ends up laughing, but I am not sure that is the best way to deal either. Yeah, we are then having fun and her mood has changed, but I don’t think that earns her respect either.
If I yell at her she cries, and I am not a big fan of yelling at people anyway.
So recently I have tried saying “Munch, are you allowed to hit Mamma?”
And then she says “No.” And hits me again.
Then the smiles and leans into me and says “Hug Mamma” and gives the most delicious embrace.
What is with kids? They really are emotional terrorists. HELP!
“Hey Mamma…I can totally take you!”